Coping Concept & Strategies to deal with Different Ways of Emotions

May 7, 2015, 2:20 am

It is important that a person learns how to deal with daily emotions. She has to cope with different kinds of situations and stay positive. In order to understand how to handle different situations in a positive way, we have to understand the meaning of emotion.
Emotion – Meaning
Emotion is a complicated psychological condition that includes three separate elements. They are physiological response, subjective experience and expressive response.
Emotions are divided into two categories – basic and complex.
# Basic emotions
There are seven basic emotions. They are fear, anger, contempt, sadness, disgust, happiness and surprise. It is said that basic emotions are manifested by facial expressions.
# Complex emotions
Emotions that do not occur automatically and are self-conscious in nature are called complex emotions. Complex emotions include pride, shame and guilt. Self-evaluation and self-reflection lead to complex emotions.
Changes and reaction
Emotion is attributed by changes in both internal and external changes. Internal changes include quick breathing & pulse, dry mouth, increase in blood pressure, etc. External changes, on the other hand are exhibited by expressions on the face. For instance, when a person is happy, the area around her eyes is wrinkled, the muscle around her eyes tightens, the corners of her lips are lifted diagonally and her cheeks are also raised.
Emotions vary with former experience and age. People do not follow a constant pattern all the time. Reactions often depend on emotional and physical condition of that person.
Happiness – Positive Emotion
Happiness is an emotional condition of well-being, which is expressed by positive emotions ranging from fulfillment to extreme joy. Various kinds of psychological, biological, philosophical and religious approaches have tried to describe happiness as well as realize its source.
A positive minded person is one who can keep her emotions controlled and not get carried away by her emotions.
Bringing emotional well being
A person can lead an emotionally healthy life by behaving in a positive way.
Mentioned below are some situations that bring about irritation or anger. The examples are followed by techniques that help in dealing positively.
# Problems in relationship
• You have been treated badly in relationship and you become angry. You express yourself through irritation, violence and start ignoring the person who has hurt you.
• The reason for this kind of behavior is a past experience where you remember a negative attitude you had experienced and had kept silent. For example, you recollect an incident when your parent had beaten you for no reason.
Coping strategies
Your present reaction is inappropriate and you should understand that you should forget the past and live the present with a different mindset. You should realize that this is a different phase of life and the past should not interfere in it to make things tough for you and those surrounding you.
# Problem with a friend
You have some problems` with a friend and you are angry. You shout at her because you are afraid that you might face trouble. You are angry because of the attitude of your friend.
Coping strategies
This is not an appropriate behavior and you should be assertive in your request when you say that you cannot comply with her.
# Problem managing time
• You have a lot of responsibilities and you do not know which work to do at what time. You are in a mess and express yourself through pessimism plus anger.
• This you do by shutting doors with a loud bang and closing drawers so hard that they break.
• You are annoyed as you missed an important task because you had to give priority to another task at hand.
Coping strategies
This is not the right way to act and you should try to behave in a more sober way. You should be meticulous and plan things before hand, by keeping in account the distractions.
# Problem in education and career
• You are having issues in education and career. You get worried and express yourself by binge eating.
• This kind of behavior is caused by the anxiety and apprehensions about future.
Coping strategies
Worrying is not the solution to this problem and neither is overeating. Instead, you should take the problem as a challenge and try to get hold of the right guidance to achieve in success in education or career.
# Problem with eating habits
• If you are going through issues related to food habits and hygiene, you will get irritated. As a result, you might be violent and impolite with you family members.
• This kind of attitude manifests when your food habits are not proper and you do not maintain hygiene.
Coping strategies
This behavior is not desirable and you have to be positive when dealing with such issues. You should follow a proper diet and if required, you can visit a dietician. Healthy food habits are necessary for maintaining emotional well-being. Maintaining hygiene is important to stay well and not fall sick.
Anger – Negative Emotion
It is normal to be angry, in fact at times it is considered a healthy way to express yourself. However, anger that gets out of hand becomes destructive. Anger is expressed through a vast range that starts with slight irritation and ends with excessive rage. Anger enhances heart rate and blood pressure level. You can be angry about a person, a certain practice, an object, laws, political decisions and past events that cause pain when reminisced.
Anger is required to sustain in the world. But, you have to keep it under control, so that you don’t start attacking anyone who hurts your sentiments. Anger can be dealt with three specific techniques. They are as follows.
• Suppressing
You can think about positive things and change anger into productive behavior. However, if anger is not converted into productive thinking, but kept inside; it can lead to hypertension or even depression. This results in emotional and physical harm besides making you hostile towards others.
• Expressing
Expression is considered the healthiest form of dealing with anger. It involves a non-aggressive attitude and assertive nature.
• Calming
You can try to calm yourself down by bringing down the heart rate and allowing anger to ebb away.
Manage Anger – Tips
• You should ask yourself if the reason to get angry will be valid in the next ten years. You will realize that you don’t need to be hostile.
• You should accept the fact that whatever happened, made you upset. Also identify the fact that getting angry is not the final solution.
• You should recollect if you have ever done something similar with another person and how she reacted.
• Now, you have to think how you are reacting and if your reaction is really required. May be the person did not do anything intentionally and did not want to harm you.
• You can take a walk to bring down your anger and think something more constructive. You can also count till ten before reacting. This may not reduce your anger, but it can reduce the intensity of what you are going to say or do.
Developing skills in life that helps you deal with emotional outbursts is important. These skills help to take the right track in life. Certain things that you come across may not be under your control; however, the way you react is under your control. It is thus, significant that you identify your emotions and realize techniques to control them through Life Skills.


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